I stared down at my phone screen, drafting and redrafting the perfect bio that would help me land my one true love-or at least a coffee date. Nothing so long that a potential match might swipe past, but nothing too short that would make it seem like I didn’t care. After all, I spent almost an hour curating six photos of myself that were both cute and conversation starters: vintages dresses, bookstores, me in a ball pit-typical artsy girl. There was a lot I could put in my bio that would highlight who I am: Writer, Hufflepuff, Virgo, Pumpkin Spice Connoisseur and, oh yeah, queer AF.
I tried queer dating apps for the first time-here’s what happened
Dating in a small rural town is hard; dating in a small rural town as a queer person is its own level of difficult. When I returned to my small conservative town as a liberal queer woman, it was a bit of a readjustment period. How do I tell people? Do I tell people? How out is too out and, more importantly, how do I date?
I’ve never done any dating via apps before or after I came out as bisexual. I had lived and worked on college campuses and could always find my people. But now that I’m in an isolated area and working from home, meeting new people-new queer people-was a struggle. I was worried about outing myself in public to people who might harm me if I flirted with the wrong person, in front of the wrong people. Dating apps, while still far from being the perfect safe haven, could allow me the luxury of meeting new people in a relatively safe space.
In 2019, there’s an app for everything, so that means there’s a dating app for just about anybody (looking at you Farmers Only). Read more